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We care about your fun, but please do not share the product with multiple partners without following cleaning instructions. Stimulation doesn’t get much more targeted than Lelo’s laser-focused Dot. The tip rotates in tiny circles, providing a sensation that’s similar to the feeling of rubbing your clitoris with your finger—but way stronger. Each model was tested by at least five people, who tried every speed setting, vibration pattern and innovative feature to make sure they delivered a pleasurable experience. If you’re concerned about the sound, shop for quiet vibrators or check the product description for the decibel level; anything 40db or below will be exceptionally quiet. The classic G-spot vibrator comes with a curved tip to target that specific erogenous zone, which is found around 5-8cm up the inside wall of the vagina.
If you’re looking to treat yourself in the bedroom there are millions of sex toys to choose from, but one of the greatest things about masturbating is you’re totally in control. Ensure that it’s wide, narrow, or long enough to align with the circumference of your clit, advises Stone. If you want to pair the panty vibe with tighter clothing , it’s best to avoid “bullet-vibe-lookin’ bulges,” says Queen. One of the biggest benefits of panty vibrators is their discretion and versatility.
Our favorite is this one from Le Wand, which sports a head made from silky soft silicone and a handy travel lock. This powerful pick also has 10 vibration speeds and 20 patterns, which you can cycle through easily using three buttons. “Do you want a toy that really targets just the head of the clitoris—or the whole vulva?
For powerful external stimulation on not just your clitoris but all erogenous zones, this may be the toy for you. According to Javay Frye-Nekrasova, sex educator and pleasure expert at Lovehoney, these vibrators have large, bulbous wand heads that rumble for the right amount of intensely satisfying stimulation. This device’s strong vibrations can be used all over the body for direct stimulation, and they’re also popularly used as head-to-toe massagers for sore muscles.
High-end sex toy company Lelo is known for its toys’ elegant aesthetic and luxe feel, and this cock ring is no exception. Simple to operate, easy to wear—it’s no surprise that the best vibrating cock rings tend to make for some of the best couples’ sex toys. The trick, then is finding just the right model in a sea of shimmying, shaking cock rings that can all look similar—while hiding plenty of fun surprises.
A lot of toys have multiple settings, and that often allows you to turn up and down the intensity, speed, and/or pattern of vibrations. While it might be tempting to crank your toy all the way up (and you should totally do that when you’re ready to, even if that is, in fact, right away), you can also experiment with bumping up the intensity gradually. Though most people refer to the bean-shaped area at the upper crest of the vulva as the clitoris, New York City-based board-certified obstetrician-gynecologist Monica Grover, MD, says it’s just the beginning of this sensitive zone. “The external clitoris is located above the urethra and where the bilateral inner labia meet viberators,” says Dr. Grover. This toy has a whopping 10 contraction rings inside it, for some serious stroking. The Onyx+ can be used for long-distance play, like the Lovense Max 2 above, by syncing up with another Kiiro sex toy (like the brand’s Pearl 2 vibrator) and replicating how your partner’s using it.
Not only is it made from recycled materials in a green-powered factory, the brand promises to plant a tree with every purchase and it offers a repair and recycle scheme. What’s more, the base is compatible with all Love Not War detachable heads, so you can mix things up depending on your mood. I stand by the fact that it didn’t really need an upgrade in the first place, but the waterproof design is especially welcome. The 40-minute battery life just isn’t enough some days, but I might be greedy. Frankly, I don’t need more than a couple minutes with the Vesper 2 to orgasm, so unless I’m making it a whole hour-long sexual self-care session, 40 minutes is enough.
